Tuesday, July 7, 2009

ME AND THE LADYBOYS

LA LA AND A COUPLE OF HER TEACHER FRIENDS
SAI YOK NOI WATERFALLS CLOSE TO THE ROAD NO WALKING AND HIKING AND VERY BEAUTIFUL

HAVING FUN AND RELAXING ,AND ENJOYING A LITTLE TIME AWAY FROM THE BIG CITY LIFE


GUESS WHO ???????



A VERY SWEET AND HAPPY GROUP OF YOUNG PEOPLE ,ENJOYING LIFE TO IT'S FULLEST

Well, this is my Blog about being Retired in Thailand and my experiences while living here in this place call the "Land of Smiles and Gentle People."This is one of my stories of recent.
La La our dear friends from the Philipines, and a teacher in our local high school told me the other day that a few of her Filipino teacher friends from Bangkok wanted to come to Whang Pho for a few days visit, as they have a couple of days off and wanted to get out of the Big City for a little while, and she wanted to know if we would accomodate a couple of them because , her place was very small, of course I said yes, with no questions ask ,trusting La La that all would be ok.
Well the time came for them to show up at our place for dinner ,a visit and a place to spend the night, for two of them.Well to my and Ciejay's surprise two of them were lady boys, never having any contact with a lady boy before and having my thoughts and ideas about them , I have to say at first I was a little stand offish, But ,as we talked , I came to understand that underneath all that stuff, and all the emotions and stress brought on by the stares and discrimination and misunderstandings of most folks, that there beat hearts just like mine and yours. I really enjoyed the time I got to spend with them and ,I think my eyes and heart and my mind,were opened to a group people that in times past I had tryed to avoid if at all possible, my whole life.Now I know (after all these years) what the Bible meant when it says that Love sees the good and does not look for the bad in people.
We had dinner , talked until early in the morning , I ask lots of questions about their lives as lady boys and the effect it had on them , for work , family , and friends and I believe, I got a lot of honest answers.The next day I took them to the Sai Yok Noi water falls down the road and we had a great time and I believe that for the first time in quite a while they really relaxed and let their hair down so to speak , Ha Ha .There was still the stares and finger pointing as only Thais can do , but we paid no attention at all. I learned a good new lesson in life , and it is a old one for the most part that YOU CAN'T JUDGE A BOOK BY IT'S COVER and the same holds true for people . Malcolm

9 comments:

Mike said...

Malcolm I am one person who in the past was quick to point the finger at things or people that were different.

As for ladyboys, kathoeys call them what you will, they are just human beings like the rest of us. My attitude to gay people generally has improved since I have lived here, which can't be bad.

Glad you had a good time and thanks for sharing your experience.

Robert said...

Hi Malcolm

Your timing is impeccable. I was about to send you a Picasa link and ask a favour if you could identify the falls and engine photos I took, but typically forgot to note the exact location. I only knew it was near Kanchanaburi.

Many thanks for answering the question before I asked it!! It has been bugging me that I did not know.

Take care
Robert

Mike Turner said...

religeon is a sign of weakness
you know that deep down

Anonymous said...

Well dad, I am glad you are finally freeing your mind. It's just to bad that it took 67 years to get to this point. Think of all the wonderful, genuine people and experiences you have missed out on in life. One of my favorite songs from the late 80's by En Vouge "free your mind, don't be so shallow, free your mind, your heart will follow."

Richard

Martin in Bulgaria said...

Hi Malcolm and CieJay,
I must say I admire your openmindedness, but that comes from being of good faith.

Everyone has a right to do what they feel is right for them as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else.

If I was there I just woudn't be able to stop staring at theri vital parts in wonder as to what's lurking there!

Kindest from Mart and Gal :)

Martyn said...

Malcolm I tried to pick a photo I liked the best, a very hard choice because they are all so wonderful, full of happy vibrant people. In the end I decided the bottom (slight pun) one because it epitomises everything about the Thai people, happy, smiling, living the day and a young cross gender society.

I am happy to read that you have now found the ladyboys to be an acceptable part of Thai culture, most of them are honest fun loving people and quite funny to share a little time with and most importantly, what you see is what you get, no hidden skeletons in the cupboard.

Louise said...

I'm glad you had a learning opportunity. And that you used it to ask questions - something many people, especially English people, I think, wouldn't do. I'm ew to your blog and will be reading more of your backposts when I have time! Have a good day. Louise In Italy

MJ Klein said...

anyone who spends any time at all in Thailand has to learn to be tolerant of others. it's a good learning experience for many. in Thai culture, men wearing bras and lipstick are just another part of life. i've seen such men working at the airport, and at the local 7-11. people generally respond to how they are treated. just smile and be nice and that's what you'll get back from the friendly Thais (of any background).

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